Mother’s Day tips for loved ones with dementia

Making Mother’s Day enjoyable for a family member with dementia

Mother’s Day is the perfect chance to spend time with the whole family, but the celebration can be stressful for people living with dementia.

Our dementia specialist, Tiffany Smith, has some helpful advice for families on how to make Mother’s Day more enjoyable for a family member with dementia.

Helping Hands has been providing dementia care for families for 26 years through a range of hourly visiting and live-in care services focused on allowing people to stay in their own homes and live independent lives.

Tiffany recommends the following tips to create a relaxing and calm atmosphere on Mother’s Day for a family member living with dementia:

1) Plan meals carefully and in advance – If you’re planning a meal out, make sure you find a quieter pub or restaurant, as increased noise can be disorientating. Make sure the pub or restaurant has plenty of room to allow your loved one to walk about while waiting for the meal – we can all become restless whilst waiting. If this is going to be problematic, try ordering a sandwich or something quicker to prepare. You could even notify the pub in advance, so you don’t have as long to wait for your meals. Always allow plenty of time to travel to and from the venue, as rushing will add to your loved one’s anxiety.

2) Consider activities at home – If a meal out wouldn’t be suitable, why not organise to cook a meal at home in a quiet, familiar and comfortable setting? Make sure Mum feels involved – something simple, such as peeling the potatoes while sitting at the dining room table, is a great way to achieve this. Encourage your mother to lay the table; she might want to decide the seating plan if there are quite a few people coming. Make sure you use photographs rather than names, as they are more likely to prompt her memory.

3) Choose activities that involve everyone – Take the gift of a lovely bunch of flowers to the next level and provide your loved one with a flower arranging session at home, using ribbons, bows and her favourite vase. Flower arranging is a calming, relaxing and enjoyable activity providing sensory experiences such as touch and smell. This activity can be done standing, sitting or at a bedside, making it accessible for all individuals.

4) Create a playlist – Select some of your mother’s favourite songs from when she was growing up and put together a playlist. Music can provide a calming and soothing atmosphere. Individuals with dementia can respond positively to songs they connect with, giving them the chance to sing along and reminisce.

5) Stay within the comfort zone – It’s best to avoid any activities that take your loved one out of their comfort zone, such as shopping, or activities that require them to remain stationary for a long period of time, like the cinema. These activities may increase anxiety, and therefore will not be enjoyable for your loved one.

6) Make it personal – Although many activities are beneficial for people living with dementia, everything depends on personal preference – from the activities you do together to the gift you choose.

Tiffany said, “Busy restaurants and other activities you associate with classic Mother’s Day plans can be stressful for a person living with dementia. It’s important to make sure your loved one feels fully included in the celebrations of the day, and be prepared to make some adjustments to make the day calm and as stress-free as possible.

“Music and flowers are just a few easily achievable examples of things which can really make a positive difference for a mother or grandmother living with dementia on Mother’s Day.”

For further support and information, read about the different types of dementia. Click on the link or contact us to hear more about how our expert dementia care can help you at home.