The loneliness of a loved one’s passing can understandably make someone feel that their life as they know it is over and they don’t know how to move forward. Acknowledging someone’s grief is important when they are feeling loss, rather than not mentioning it because others feel it will upset them. Most people want to talk about the life they have had with someone, not pretend they never existed, and may want others to acknowledge the importance of the person that’s passed away. AgeUK tells us that, while not knowing what to say to someone who is bereaved is perfectly natural, and avoiding the subject may be meant as a kindness on the part of the friend or loved one, “bereaved people usually say they find it comforting when this enormously significant moment in their lives is openly acknowledged, and a sense of sympathy expressed.”
Valentine’s Day can be made more inclusive for older people who’ve lost their partner, or for those who’ve never married, by turning it into a day that includes remembrance of loved ones who have passed over, rather than a day that’s only enjoyed by couples. This could mean remembrance of parents, grandparents, and siblings too, not just husbands, wives, or partners.